The gift of being alive…
Think about it… while you are reading these here lines about coping with stress, your MIND is constantly active, analyzing, making decisions, memorizing, remembering and so on.
But you rarely notice some common habits of ours, humans, so vital, for example the fact that your chest is swelling rhythmical … inhaling… exhaling … letting you breathe, and that your eyelashes so gently close and open keeping your eyes fresh.
It’s nothing. It’s the way it’s supposed to be.
Yes! You’re right. But it’s not nothing… it’s in fact
EVERYTHING
It means something. It means you’re alive. It means that no matter what is wrong around you or inside of you, these problems count the least. But what is more important is that you’re hosting those powerful heart beats and those fragile sensitive eye blinks that you can’t hear. Those are your precious gems. Sending you the message that you are alive.
Live, my friend, …live!
And you shall overcome many and find always the new.
About coping with stress in the newspapers and… coping with stress in magazines; coping with stress must be a major issue these days.
Life truly is a wonderful experience. But to live can be so tough sometimes…
For coping with stress I’ve prepared some …rules:
1. Don’t make it harder on yourself.
2. Discover who you really are.
3. Eat.
4. Learn.
5. Act.
6. Coping with stress is easier when you go from 1 through 5.
These simple rules are for psychical recovery applying for every stress category the human mind ever experienced. Simple rules. Easy to follow. But notice that among these 5 essential key rules none is referring to THINKING. And there is a good reason for it too. I’m going to dig into this matter later as we get to know each other more.
Remember that moment in your childhood when you did that thing? aaaaa… you know what I’m talking about…
I remember I was like 13 or 14 years old (coping with stress were non existing words then…), ready to kick the ball all the time, never hungry for home but for hanging out and watching time fly, you know :), and… since I hated walking from door to door singing carols to my neighbors I obviously didn’t enjoy the winter season because my parents forced me to do just that aaaallll the time :)).
Anyway, there was one shiny winter night in which a bunch of restless boys gathered on the neighborhood’s street to throw a cracker or two and have a good time. One of them came with the idea to go to every house we knew and sing some Christmas songs just for the heck of it.
I agreed along with the others. We started loudly deciding what sort of carols to perform to our friends as we left the meeting place. A looong night followed in which we were the loudest crew in the area.
Finally after I reached home…grandmother looks at me: “Where have you been all this time?”
I took a seat first: “WEEEELL, GRANNY…AAAHHH.. I’ve….I’ve.. I HAVE! .. been singing to our neighbors.. you know.. carols.. really!”
Grandmother stares at me: “And you’ve been drinking as well haven’t you?”
“OFF COOOOUURSE!!!!” I said to her. “They AALLL gave us just a little glass with white wine.. some of them….aaahh gave us ..REEEED… you know…:)”
Grandmother smiled and asked me to tell her the whole story. And I did. It was a good night after all. Didn’t want to end up barely speaking to granny… but… what can I say.. :)) That’s the way it went.
This story gets more interesting when you think about the fact that I am not a drinker. I don’t drink! …and I am not a party singing star or anything like that neither. But still… things that I would normally disagree with doing, actually happened.
Well, aside from assigning my grandmother the task of coping with holiday stress :-), the story raises an interesting aspect which plays a very important role in our lives: The Entourage . But.. we’ll dig into this matter later on :).
When you talk about something that you did and you feel happy or proud or amused by it, then …you start experiencinga recovery. Suddenly you begin to deal with stress. A well deserved breath took when in great need of air. So tell me… how busy can you be to not share a memorable event from your life. Nobody is too busy for this (coping with stress is a must for everybody) It’s an extremely efficient way to relax and get your tension to decrease. A good anti stress shield.
Talk to friends. Talk to strangers. Talk to your family members. They can really help you in coping with stress. TALK! Laugh! Remember! Age? Doesn’t matter because regardless of how old you are you spend time every single day thinking about improving your mood in a way.
Rule no. 1. Don’t make it harder on yourself. Many different situations dictate a sad tone. It happens! Your pet died. You can’t afford your mortgage payment this month. You lost your favorite coat somewhere. You are in court waiting to hear what the judge has to say about you. No matter how painful the situation can be or how low your pride came down, the idea is to stay alive. To remain conscious and aware. Stay strong! Think you cannot pull yourself together? Not true. SAY IT LOUD, my friend! Find yourself. That’s how you start coping with stress.
Everybody is strong. The society we live in teaches us to obey. It teaches is to live like sheep.
The good part? If you are smart enoughyou can “steal” some info from here and there and learn a thing or two.
But the downside to all this is the fact that this whole process of evolution is a bit like a trap. It is similar to living in a cage.
Think about it!
-Always think! Analyze! You will discover a lot of the unsaid and who knows maybe you will discover the unthought-of. And slowly but surely grow your human strength. You will need it to recover.Remind your self about how strong you are. Think you are weak? Not true.